There are lots of posts out there in the blogging world listing charitable and kind responses to rude comments people make about having lots of kids. Which is all fine and good if that’s your style or if the people are actually interested in your response. But what about those other people?
You know the people I am talking about. The ones who when you are out and about with the brood and minding your own business, who can’t resist coming up and making a snotty comment.
Just like “an eye for an eye”, I personally prefer “snark for snark”…I’m sure that’s a verse in the bible.
Common Questions I get and responses that come in handy.
You gonna have more?
Yes but we are going to stop when we have an ugly one
Practice makes perfect
Don’t you know what causes it?
Yes and we like it
Maybe you should try it
Don’t you have a TV?
Yes but there are commercials
Yes but we have Netflix and there is a pause button
Are all of those yours?
No the other half are at home
No I thought it would be fun to bring all the kids from the neighborhood shopping
What it is: A savings account for known non-monthly expenses. Any expense you can reasonable predict but that you don’t get billed for monthly. Car insurance for example. What it’s not for – emergencies, fun things etc. This is not the savings account you use when your car transmission dies or when you want a new dress.
Why you need it: So you aren’t late with bills. So you aren’t stressed when you realize that you have a car insurance bill due next week. To be prepared for the expected expenses.
How to do it: figure out all non-monthly expenses for the upcoming year and set aside money each payday into a dedicated savings account.
What to account for:
Christmas, birthday and other gifts
Medical deductible (use a H.S.A. to cover this if you can)
Property tax and homeowners insurance if mortgage is paid off
Water and Sewer bill if not monthly
My Real Life Example
High School Homeschool Tutor Fees $5,000
Property Tax $5,000
Homeowners Insurance $1,300
Quarterly Water Bill ($350 every 3 months) $1,400
Car Insurance $1,200
Car Maintenance $500
Divided by 24 paychecks = 600
Every payday I have $600 automatically transferred into my Sinking Fund Savings Account.
I have 3 different savings accounts at Capital One 360: Sinking Fund, Emergency Fund and regular savings account.
I use the sinking fund for the above expenses. The emergency fund is used for the unexpected…water heater dies, roof gets a hole, you forget your wife’s birthday and need to buy your way out of the doghouse. The regular savings account is used for whatever we want…night out, weekend away etc.
Every time we serve this everyone wants the recipe!!! We marinade it mainly on chicken. But it is also good with beef or pork.
1 cup vegetable oil
1/2 cup red wine
1/2 cup red wine vinegar
1/4 cup soy sauce
1/4 cup Worcestershire
2 teaspoons seasoned salt
2 teaspoons dry mustard
2 teaspoons dried rosemary
1 teaspoon crushed red pepper (optional)
A few cloves garlic
1 chopped onion
Throw everything in a sauce pan. Bring to boil. Turn off and let cool and use.
Marinade at least 6 hours…overnight is best…tastes amazing on the grill but you could bake or broil if necessary. ENJOY!!!
1 Cake mix, 1/2 cup of oil, 2 eggs, 1/2 cup anything (chips, nuts, raisins, etc…) Be creative with the cake mixes and additions. cook 350 for 7-12 min-they will look undercooked but are good and chewy.
Good comfort food and very creamy so serve with bread or rice on the side.
1 large family pack of chicken breast: boil for about 15 min till no longer pink
2 tablespoons of lemon juice
1 large can of cream of mushroom soup (or one small can of cr. of mush and one can of cr of chick)
1/2 cup of mayo
1/2 cup of butter (original recipe says 3/4 cup but I think it is too much)
1 pack of Italian seasoning ( I think this is the secret ingredient)
1/2 cup of cheddar cheese (of course I accidentally spill more in)
1 large bag of frozen broccoli
I cut up the chicken and then mix all ingredients together (butter last because it is melted) and put in one huge dish or two small- one to freeze or give away or if you have a big family eat it all. Serve with bread for dipping in the yummy gravy and rice is good too
When your in the moment and grinding away at working, it’s important to remember what/why you are working.
Some people love their career choice and can’t wait to go to work. For me my job is a means-to-an-end. It doesn’t define me and I don’t particularly like it. I work to support and provide for the many persons living under my roof. It’s not a dream job. It’s a job I tolerate, some days better than others, and put up with to get money. It is a very shallow and base mindset I have towards my job. So why not do something different?
A few reasons:
It pays decently (enough to support us and allow us to save a good size chunk).
I am able to work from home. No commute, $$ savings, less stress, more flexibility.
At this point in life I am not in a position to be taking risks.
At some point in the future, 7-10 years from now, I will pull the plug on the job and be “retired”. Then I will play hard. For now I play semi-hard. While I have to work 40 hours a week, I still get to have a fair amount of fun and do things I enjoy: family time, running, working on cars. At this point in my life it is a balancing act between Work and Play.
Thanks to all who have been stopping by. We are working on adding more content. The 13 kids and 3 grandkids are occupying most of our time. That and work, and play, and life and homeschooling the little buggers.
You have so much crap that it won’t fit in your house and you have to pay to have it stored? (I’m not talking about people in the process of moving and between homes, or those in the Mob who need places to stash bodies, guns and drugs. Storage units are great for those needs.)
Paying $100-$400 a month (the going rate around here for a storage unit depending on the size) to store your material excess is insane. Sell the junk on eBay, at a garage sale, on Craigslist. Donate it to Goodwill or some other group. Throw it in a freaking landfill. Just quit paying all that money to store your grandmother’s “antique” furniture she left behind. It was cheap then and it is junk now. Your grandmother wasn’t a Rockefeller, she was a tightwad. She is rolling over in her grave and cursing your name that you are paying a small fortune each month to house her Montgomery Ward catalog furniture. Just let it go.
Are you really gonna use that Bowflex or thigh-master 2000? Will you ever fit into your clothes from college and are they even in style anymore? Your bobblehead collection of the characters of Joanie Loves Chachi? Get rid of them.
On the other-hand owning and renting them might be a good way to make a buck. So many people have so much stuff. It’s probably a good business to invest in.
We have a ton of junk too, but it’s all in our attic, closets, garage, shed, and every room in our house. But that’s an issue for a separate post on detachment.
Parental control of what kids are taught and how it’s taught.
Get to teach your value system to your kids, not the government’s “values”.
You can teach to your kid’s learning style. There are no learning disabled kids, just teacher disabled adults.
If you want to spend all day learning about how caterpillars become butterflys or how to conjugate verbs you can.
Better socialization skills (home-school kids being un-socialized is one of the great lies). Our kids interact with kids and adults of all ages, not just with kids their own age. This is of particular importance for boys.
Lots of time and freedom to pursue other activities. Homeschooling allows them to do much more if the parent so chooses.
Takes about 1/3 of the time of regular schooling. My kids, if motivated, are done school in 2-3 hours tops. The lazy ones can take all day.
Can do school in your pajamas.
Don’t have to get up super early to meet a carpool or the bus.
Lots of time to play outside and just be a kid.
No getting dropped of at 7am for before-school care and picked up at 6pm from after-care.
Lots of one on one time with parents. Builds better relationships with parents and siblings.
No busywork and filler in the classroom.
Kids learn at their pace not at the pace of the slowest kid in the classroom
Costs are very low, much lower than private school and about the same as public school. We spend less than $200 to school our k-8 kids (high-school homeschooling costs more and will be covered in a future post). This assumes you aren’t using some expensive curriculum package. My bride does up her own curriculum. But even the packaged curriculum is affordable for most.
Safer – we have had no bomb threats, school shootings, stabbings, drug use, bullying…well ok, my kids do bully each other. But we prefer to call it “Life Lessons”.
You can take vacation whenever you want. We get to go to the beach when it’s the off-season. Beaches aren’t crowded and the rents are a lot cheaper.
You are there to help you kids through the “big issues” in life and can decide when they learn about them.
The person who loves the child most in this world is also their teacher.
Cons of Homeschooling:
None. Well none for us. I hear other people comment on the downside of homeschooling but this has always been from people who have never tried it. I have no time or patience to deal with these objections and people any more. We’ve been doing this for over 20 years and have heard it all. If you have problems with the idea of homeschooling try sitting down with a veteran home-school mom (like my bride) and talking about it. We have dealt with all the objections over the years. Or better yet give homeschooling a try. You can always ship them back to the public school, they would love to get their meat-hooks back into them.
Results so far – My oldest graduated college 2 years early and got her masters in a year. 2nd oldest graduated and his working. 3rd just finished Grad school with a Doctor of Physical Therapy degree and has started work. 4th has graduated and been working for a year. The 5th finished undergrad and is heading to Grad school in a few months. The next 2 kids are in college currently. All of our kids have finished high school either 1 or 2 years early. 2 kids are doing high school currently. 1 is middleschool age. 3 are elementary school age.